It's kind of embarrassing to admit, but I was really scared of being desi in elementary and middle school. It wasn't any one specific remark that made me decide "okay, from today, i'm going to be completely American," but rather a build up of racist comments. Just having kids saying mildly racist things in passing, even if it wasn't to me, made me super self conscious in elementary and middle school about my identity. I never really learned to fully embrace my culture until about freshmen/sophomore year of high school, which is way later than I would'v liked it to be. most of that newfound acceptance was thanks to the sudden surge of representation of Desis, too.
Empowered desi girls on instagram, empowered Desi men and women on TV, seeing other POC being proud of their own cultures, all of that led me to re-embracing my culture and identity.